I bet you can identify a couple of things you do that don’t work for others with whom you work or live. 

And there are likely to be things that you don’t do that others would appreciate it if you did. 

I’m not a fan of spending a lot of time worrying about how we got to where we are; neither do I find it productive to think I should be better than I am. I recommend adopting the view that we are exactly as we should be given our past. No better, no different, no worse. Now the important question is this: Who do we want to be going forward? Let’s just acknowledge where we are and plot a new course.

Reflect on these questions and consider what you might want to stop doing or start doing.

What is it that I do that is frustrating or upsetting for my family?

What is it that I don’t do and it would make a difference to them if I did it?

“The important thing is this: To be able to give up what we are for what we could become.”
— Charles DuBois, Belgian naturalist